You say you just "don't leave him" Why? Are you afraid of being alone? Honey, there is NOTHING WRONG with being alone. It's a way of getting to know yourself. But if you don't like yourself, you won't like being alone. You have to LIKE yourself in order to like being alone.

I love being alone. I mean, I don't LOVE myself. But I don't mind being alone. I seldom have any privacy, since both my adult kids moved back home. So when I do have some alone time, I relish it!

But I certainly wouldn't put up with someone who was USING ME. If you think this guy is just staying with you for a place to hang his hat, toss him out! Don't put up with it. And if YOU are being used as his BABYSITTER, STOP IT. Make him PAY for one, or else make him PAY YOU. You don't have to be used like this! This is BS..

Life is too short to be walked all over. Take your power back. Don't let him him keep your power -- take it back. You deserve someone to love you. You deserve someone to cherish and adore you and treat you like you deserve to be treated. This guy doesn't sound like the one for you!

God bless and please take care! Hugs, Lee