They're bullyIng you, it seeks to me. Whatever your parenting style is, it's not working. There are self-help. Groups, like "parents without Partners," that gan help teach you tough-love-parenting style. If you can get parenting classes or counseling for this, do it!

Start by not fighting the kids any more. Take a break while you regroup,,and announce that there's a "new regime moving in ... You're finding yourself a parenting coach, and things and going to chance some. Ank them to thing about changes they thing need to happen to make this a real home again, and tell them you.ll talk about it in ____ weeks. (Two ought to work)"

Then with a therapist of a group backing you, make a plans and, slowly, make needed changes.