I think it is wise to be cautious. Theoretically, it is important to be honest in communicating all feelings as clearly as possible. And theoretically, Ts should be trained to handle all such feelings.

But the fact is that not all Ts are well-trained enough to work with and resolve all transference issues, whether they are about money, various fears, parental, or romantic/sexual.

And some Ts practice within modalities that de-emphasize transference, and may have chosen those modalities to specialize in in order to avoid transference work.

If the therapy is within a psycho-dynamic framework, the odds are higher for a successful resolution. If the T has been trained at the doctoral level, the odds are higher. If the T has psychoanalytic training, the odds are higher. If the T has substantial experience in the field, the odds are higher.

All transferences are difficult, but which is most difficult is very dependent upon the individual vulnerabilities of both client and T. If the T works with children and families, a parental transference is usually not a problem. If a T works with sexual issues, a romantic/sexual transference shouldn't be a problem.

I think it would be prudent to give some thought to the training of your T, and the orientation of your work together. I would also pay special attention to how your T has handled difficult feelings in your therapy to date.

If you feel confidence in your T's general approach to your feelings, you might want to ease into the subject by revealing a few thoughts you've had of your T that reflect romantic feelings. Maybe a dream or day dream you've had. See how he responds.

Such thoughts are very common, and usually aren't really about romantic love or adult sexual desire. They often reflect childhood needs. If the issues that brought you to therapy trace to very early childhood, the appearance of sexual feelings could be seen as a developmental step in maturity. If there is a history of familial CSA, the sexual feelings could be a pretty common consequence of that.

You don't have to dive in--you can test the waters and move slowly. But please believe that you are not weird or sick or terrible for having such thoughts.