I asked my lawyer about mediation in regards to divorce....KY doesn't have divorce through mediation...it's all through the judges. However that being said because I am living in KY & filing divorce against my H in Calif....the agreements are all done through the mail & if he had a lawyer it would be through them.

Many times those father's who can't afford food because of the child support they pay are spending the rest of their money on liquor, cigarettes rather than food & what they are paying is really a fair amount. I don't necessarily agree with the college fund because many of us who had 2 parents who couldn't afford a college fund & ended up going through the junior college & into the state university's without having to have exorbitant student loans. There are definitely some levels of negotiation I would imagine.

I tolerated my husband for 33 years & the fighting we did through our daughter's life wasn't a favor to her & we would have been better off divorced. I am sure you will be able to figure out something very workable....but if your husband is as controlling as you say....he may make the divorce situation unbearable for you also & it may take a lot of strength for you to get through it. I know that I should have just forced the divorce to happen when I knew I should rather than caving into his refusal to leave the house & forcing me to be the one to leave....I should have just gone to the lawyer & made the judge force the sale of the house & SCREW him. Things turned out for the best in the long run & I have my freedom 2100 miles away where I can't be bothered by him except financially until the divorce is final.....& that is the huge problem in our relationship anyway was financial issues.