Definitely be safe for reasons you outline. Many years years ago I spent a week or two on Fire Island, a vacation plaace for New Yorkers. I was with my toddler son and Stan, a single older guy, an exceedingly wonderful man. I was completely completely clueless about the things you are describing. Fire Island as a name meant nothing to me. I was not a New Yorker, I was just visiting Stan who was. I myslef was moving from Texas to California that summer. So I was not in the know.

Fire Island does have a nude beach but the vacation house Stan was renting was next to the regular beach. On that regular beach, a woman started talking to me in a way that ifound, well, a little flattering and I was also just plain curious. It was unusual. I was not bicurious but just plain curious.

I was in my twenties and she, probably forties.

I was still clueless though. I did not understand what she was doing. But when she started framing it in terms of pitying me as I according to her was this poor girl stuck with a guy who must be treating me wrong and not appreciating my great qualities enough, I got suspicious and told Stan.

It infuriated him. Just infuriated and he definitely was not someone to lose his temper easily.

He explained to me that Fire Island had long been THE vacation spot for the city's lesbian and gay community and that the lady was preying on me and that to be the first lesbian experience of a formerly straight girl is regarded as a special prize. By the way it happened before my childhood's English teacher told me that I did not know life, so I was really hundred percent clueless.

The lady who was hitting on me probably badmouthed the guy I was with because she hoped that perhaps she would be on target as oftentimes men do mistreat their women and it is known that in some cases women explore same sex connections not out. Of strong endogenous attraction but to escape maltreatment by males. In my particular case she was wrong, the guy treated both me and my son superbly, but I am sure that in some other cases her tactics worked.