Hi ~ You may HAVE to risk hurting her feelings if you ever want some independence.

I know you said you've tried talking to her, but REALLY talking to her? You've GOT to tell her to STOP treating you like a baby. Stop "demanding" that you check in or let her in on your every movement. Give you space! Tell her that you will NOT call every day, and you will set up (whatever day(s) ) for visiting, but it will be at YOUR convenience since she doesn't work. Several days or maybe even a week may pass before she hears from you -- and she has to accept that. If she doesn't hear from the police, you're not dead!

Like I said, you're going to have to risk hurting her feelings. She WILL get over it, and will be VERY happy to see you when you DO come to visit. If she gets mad, she'll get over that too -- she doesn't want to lose you. She's GOT to set you free! She really knew that when you were growing up, but she couldn't accept it -- and when you didn't push the issue, she was in her glory! Now you've got to PUSH the issue and because it's gone on so long, it's going to be harder. But you've got to do it for both your sakes. She's got to find friends her own age -- and so do you.

God bless and I hope this all works out. Take care and let us know how things go. Hugs, Lee