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Old Jan 20, 2013, 06:04 PM
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Wow, you have a troubling "mantra" you tell yourself to "believe about yourself". How can you expect to have friends when you are so mean to "yourself"?

When we see someone we don't like have so many friends, we have to consider that perhaps that person might "care about themselves" more and they may not have as many "standards" for others to have to abide by. Or what often happens is they have the kind of "sense of self worth" that others want and "tend to be attracted to".

People who have a "low sense of self worth" have more difficulty making friends, because they often become too demanding, needy, and require more effort and thought to spend time with. They often "unknowingly" have a series of "negetive chants" that people find "depressing" and so without realizing it they will spend less and less time with that person because they too begin to feel "down".

I hope you find your way to adopting some more "positve mantras". Only you can do that for yourself. Change and growth has to come from self first.

Open Eyes
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