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I have known a few "Ninja's" over the years, and their gf's/wives ended up holding a LOT of resentment towards them. Most of these women held part-time jobs, while the Ninja worked full-time. However, when the women came home, their job was never done! There is always laundry, shopping, scrubbing, etc waiting to be done and there always will be ~ he isn't going to do it!! That's why he has you. Then come children, and a heck of a lot more work that needs to be done. Believe me, that's an understatement!

Personally, I think that it's an endless, thankless job. There is nothing to show for your work. Does it help you relax? Have you ever spoken with your bf about closing the lid of the toilet, or replacing the empty roll of toilet paper, in consideration of you or guests that come over? Perhaps (gasp!) even throwing his clothes and dirty towels into the laundry basket?? It doesn't take much effort or thoughtfulness at all. Really. And that's the part that bugs me!

If he showed just a teeny bit more thoughtfulness, than I wouldn't be so angry. But I see NO effort by him, in your description here. And it's only been 8 months. It's very common for effort to ease after a while, but it hasn't even been one year together yet! How is it going to be 5 years down the road??

Sorry if I sound super-negative here. I just wanted to warn you about the road that you're on. Just a little info about what lies ahead of you.

Best wishes and hugs to you....