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You are carrying a lot of stress and fear around with you. Your child senses that. He feels out of control because there is no one in control. Children NEED boundaries. He behaves at Day Care because that is what is expected of him. There are rules, structure and consistency.
My granddaughter can be a holy terror… when her mother is here. I cannot get her to eat properly ever, but she sits at the table until the meal is finished. When she’s here with us alone, she knows that this is the rule. I will not force her to eat, but mealtime is not playtime. She’ll sit there and pick at her food and talk while we eat. But if her mother is here, forget about it! The baby has her number. She’s up, she’s down, and she’s running around. Because her mother allows this behavior. She’s only 3 but children are clever things. Her mother called me last week laughing. The baby had sat her doll/stuffed animals around her table and said "we're at Grammy’s house, we sit at the table until dinner is over.”
You have taught him that he will get what he wants with his tantrums. Now you have to teach him positive ways to get his needs met. Are the fits at a certain time? Is he over tired? Is it when YOU are over stressed? Or when there is a lot of turmoil going on in the house?
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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