I find that when i am stressed or tired my niceness disappears and the monster appears like a cloak engulfing me trapping the niceness somewhere deeeeeep inside.
like i know i should be more patient and understanding and grateful for help but simply can't be, so i get sharp and frustrated and impatient, and end up huffing or snapping at my carer and doing the task myself (and wont give in till it is done) eventhough i know i am unable to do it right or will end up even more tired by doing it !