remember this too is also like a phase in growing up. I have a 22 year old son,sometimes I get nervous around him for the lack of communication, i sometimes just don't know what to say or how to bring a subject up. Ifind it if i leave it to him to first bring it up it helps,giving him the choice and not me.there are times although when something has to be said by me but otherwise i've seen changes in him socially, he tells me he is self conscious and the doc put him on Zoloft, of which he had a reaction to, but otherwise if he didn't bring it up he would never let me know. i don't know if this is right but sometimes we as parents have to step back and see what happens, as I've learned. Take care of yourself first. he will sooner or later have to take care of himself first too.