Yes, it's challenging to get an apartment here too. The last time he looked he couldn't get one because of an old assault charge he has (which he got a diversion for, so it shouldn't have shown up). His credit will be a problem too.

Yes, this is one reason I don't want to talk with him about this. My anxiety surrounding this topic is really high. For good reason btw. But I don't want to send that 'I don't believe in you' message. He'll take it deeply to heart. I want him to be in a position where I can honestly say that I think he's in a strong position to get his own place. He can do it. He has before. In fact, he defended himself last night that he's held a job for an extended period of time and had his own place. All true, and he needs to hold that thought in mind. He's done it before; he can do it again.

I just don't think it's wise to decide that he can afford an apartment based on a temporary job that he wants to quit every other day.

I tried my darnedest to avoid the conversation last night, and I explained I feel anxious about it. But he insisted he needed to hear my views. My honest opinion is: Not now! But I'm also aware that I'm so anxious on this subject that now may never arrive. I tried to explain that to him too.

I don't want him to move out and think he can't bring his problems to me because he's interpreted my attempts to set boundaries to mean I won't help him at all ever ever ever again.