Aww Secretum, well the truth is it does hurt in these situations.

Yes giving your heart to a girl who is not straight or who is unsure is a good place to start. I am not sure how one knows all that really, but I guess taking it really slow. It doesn't sound like you were rushing either, but maybe try to not give your heart till you know where you both stand.

I think most of us have gone through this at some point. But yes get yourself back out there, and do things you enjoy. You will meet someone I think, and you deserve to find someone that gives it back to you as well.. because they want to.

But try not to take it too personal. This happens for so many reasons and it really is not always us or about us either.

It's hard when you were friends first I imagine, but maybe she feels to awkward about it or whatever it is, but clearly she just isn't wanting it, or is not ready. In either case that is not what you are looking for or where you are at.

I didn't find real love till I was 27, and I already had my three kids by then..

My first husband was also my first bf, and that clearly was not love. I really thought it was tho at the time. I didn't know, how can you know? Until you find it, then it's like an "uhh hah!" moment.

Just don't be too hard on yourself, and you are still young, it will happen especially if you keep open to it.