((( HUGS )))

I can relate to how you're being treated by your H and the OCD - I experienced very similar things with my exH. We saw a marriage counselor (my current T), and ultimately he recommended that he see a psychiatrist and his own T.

I ended up divorcing him, because I wanted a better environment for our daughter. It was a nightmare living like that.

Anyhoo - are you typically honest with your H when you both see T together about your feelings? I'd imagine it'd be important to talk about how poorly you're being treated.