Modern condoms are individually tested electronically, so if you used one, it is probably OK.

I would buy it that he is nice in all respects except for this one. But this one is a huge one! You probably want to steer clear of people who are so conflicted about their sexuality. The world, luckily, is full of guys who would be ecstatic to have consensual and mutually rewarding sex with you while making you feel appreciated and valued.