I am nervous about posting this, so please bear with me. Ok, I have had an infection "down there" for months and months now, maybe even a year. I have lost track of time. I have let it go on for so long. I have a huge phobia of the doctor looking down there. Even the thought of going to the doctor to get checked down there causes me to sweat, shake, and break down crying. I avoid the ob-gyn at all costs. I have never seen one before. I also have such a bad fear of pain that I can't get a tampon in, I can't get my finger in, not even the tiniest thing can be inserted in there. My body gets so tense that it shakes. I can't even try to pleasure myself. I think I have vaginismus. I tried telling my mom about the vaginismus, but she said "ohh, everybody gets nervous at the ob-gyn. Oh, that problem happens to everyone." My mom doesn't understand at all. I got frustrated and started crying. I don't know what to do. Do I tell my regular doctor about the possible vaginismus? Do I tell my therapist, my psychiatrist? I am so lost. I have no support for this problem. I feel so hopeless, that this fear and problem will never be overcome. Who diagnoses this?? Please help