I lost my VERY best friend of 60 YEARS 2 weeks ago. I met her when I was 4 years old, and we've been inseparable ever since. She knew all my secrets and I knew all hers. I attended her funeral last Friday. Other than my husbands' funeral, it was the HARDEST thing I've ever had to do. i never thought I'd make it thru -- my daughter had to go with me.

When death comes to a loved one, yes we grieve. Some of us grieve more than others, and that's when we need help. We either see a grief counselor or we go into therapy. You may need both.

You say that therapy didn't help you. Well I say that you didn't stay in therapy LONG enough. You sound like someone who expected results almost immediately and that just doesn't happen. You have to be patient and realize that the therapist MUST start at the beginning -- from childhood all the way to the present, and that takes TIME. You cannot expect immediate results. We didn't get this sick overnight. It took YEARS to get this sick, and it might take a long time to get well again.

So please -- get back into therapy. I have a feeling that this grief you're feeling is MORE than just grief. I think it goes further back than the death of your best friend.

Call a therapist and start sessions. You will NOT regret it, I promise. And your relationship will grow again, and it will be twice as good as it EVER was. God bless and please keep us informed as to how you're doing. Hugs, Lee