I have been thinking about this thread because I am somewhat still recovering from my brother's (Thanksgiving-working weekend) outburst/tirade.

Imho, a person like this is impossible to please. The control factor they project is exhausting. Nothing is ever good enough *sigh*

To answer your main question: No. You should never expect a thank you. Everything is expected. I don't know your SOs background, but from what I have experienced, the noose only tightens. And worse, never expect an apology. For anything. They are never wrong. And when/if they are, they will never admit it in a sincere way. It is a power thing and the inability to be vulnerable.

I am a very clean person and enjoy making a lovely home environment. But it will never be enough.

I agree with HB...esp if you want to continue in a relationship. It really may behoove you to maintain separate residences. Anyway....just my two cents.

Hugs, Rose

Ps, if he has money, oh boy. It can be really bad. The power / control factor is unbearable. x2.