Don't leave it up to him and it's not something you ask for. if you leave, you take the kids, he owes. period. He's farked you over int he marriage, god knows you've tried from all your posts... and he has given nothing. The least he can do is pay for his kids and support you.

I am 100% behind leed in that you cannot/should not worry about him if you're leaving. You're leaving because you have to and because he already didn't pull his weight as a husband so if he doesn't like it, oh well. Your priority is the kids. His priority should be too once you leave and that means doing whatever he needs to to pay their way and care for them. Period. No ifs, ands or buts.

Also don't try to calculate it and figure out a fair amount. let the court do that. Too much complexity in figuring it all out plus I have this. Do you really think he'd be fair to you if he was the one deciding? Dont' cast your pearl before swine. I know I've said this before but if you're leaving, if you decide to do so, make the cut. Make it clean, do it without any wishy washiness. you're leaving to take care of YOU and the KIDS. he'll be out of the picture so leave him out of your worries.

Hope this helps.