You seem to feel ignored by the old pen friend, and so would I. He's ignoring you. You feel like there must be something wrong with you as to why he's ignoring you, hence the dented heel. His mother cares though and that's a good sign. She may represent a part of you that cares about yourself. It hurts to be ignored. I had a pen friend stop writting to me a couple years ago and it hurt quite a bit, and with no explanation either. So about a year ago, I went though all his letters, 13 years worth, and kept the first one and the last one, and the drawings he sent, but threw out the rest. That felt good, allowed me to move on. You will heal, as he fades into the past. There are plenty of other people at the table.