I'm a first-time poster and just wanted to say this is a great thread. A lot of my issues could be discussed in adult children of alcoholics or emotional abuse threads, but as a result of that upbringing I certainly have issues expressing anger and other emotions, too. It is a crippling feeling, especially as you become more aware of your issues and emotions, but lack the proper tools to navigate them. That is, the tools are in you, but finding and honing them can feel like completely alien work. I think a lot of the advice here is in tune with that. It is worth every effort, though, because it is your life.