The friend who participates in the defense of tortured people - my point was that she has a very tolerant husband. She, at one point, caught a rat. By accident. What did she do with the rat? She cooked it... and ate it. She used the skills she learned in her Stone Age workshops. And the husband, who is the exact opposite and never camps and enjoys the vacations with all the luxuries the modern world has to offer, was not disgusted. He did not eat the rat, but he was, like, whatever. She wants to do social causes such as with tortured people - fine. She has not done anything for money for years and years, despite being a Harvard Law School graduate. She did want the stress and hours connected with the legal career. He has always been fine with everything.

So if you imagine the spectrum of husbands from the most abusive on the left to the most tolerant on the right, her husband would be on the very, very far right - off the spectrum, in fact. Some of the common friends wonder how he is SO tolerant. Because, you know, the incident with the rat is unusual, to say the least.

So her situation is enviable. A lot of people would give a lot to be in her shoes.

But she has depression and her mother is schizophrenic. No abuse in her family of origin either, her father is very sweet and caring and took early retirement to care for his wife, so peace and quiet. But - mental illness.