My kids were born and I fell in love with them instantly. I saw my husband and it was love at first sight. Why cant I figure out how to love myself as ive never really been aware of loving or being at peace with myself. Rough childhood, alcoholic father, abuse issues,... (not my father). It was a very hostive environment. I was so focused on just putting one foot in front of the other and not stepping on a land mine that it never occured to me that I should love and accept myself. Loving ones self was something that was never fostered in my household. Where do I start.??