I understand how you feel, in a way. I'm younger than you by eight years, and it seems everyone around me is in a great relationship...yet I seem to be a chameleon to women. Indeed, the girl I have a crush on is moving away within the next year or so to school, so I don't feel comfortable trying to pursue anything with her, which is presumptuous of me to start with. I just don't think it'd be fair to either of us. I understand fully well wanting that...there is nothing on this earth I envy more.

But take heart. Things like this usually happen when they will. And I do know how you must feel with his assertion that he wants to be able to provide for you and your rationale that he doesn't need to do that, but I do understand his perspective as well. Him and I are of the same mentality. I don't want to start a life with someone without knowing full and well that I can provide for her the life I want to provide for her. If him and I are of precisely the same mentality, he wants to be sure he can do that for you, and it is, to him, a scary prospect that if he were, for whatever reason, to fail, that he wouldn't be able to do for you as he wants, or worse, that he would drag you "down" with him, foolish as that may sound. I know it's difficult understanding that at times, but I truly do think he has what he thinks is your best interest at heart.

Don't lose heart. You've plenty of time, and it sounds like to me that you have a guy who does genuinely care for you (that is disregarding his comments in the fight...I am trusting that he only spoke out of frustration, which tends to make liars out of most people. I only pray that wasn't a sort of Freudian slip for him...a possibility I cannot fully rule out). I trust things will work out, one way or the other. The biggest thing is that no matter what, don't lose hope, and keep heart.

My best, and hugs,
Harley