(If you don't want to think about her, feel free to disregard all this and skip to the bottom-- I totally understand!)

Oh wow.
"All about her" much?! And lack of boundaries?!
With all the other stuff you have on your plate, this must be so very draining. (Even if you didn't, it sounds like it would be!) While I've not had exactly the same situation, much of the dynamic is (unfortunately) familiar. I'm still new to learning about it and how to deal, and it is no easy task. Trying not to get swallowed up in making decisions that are mired in guilt-tripping and plays for sympathy or pity? Ever the victim and no matter how much you do, it is never enough? Sure, for a moment it is. But it doesn't last. You try to bring up anything related to this dynamic and it gets derailed by a sudden case of their hurt? Is there reciprocity or is it a one-way street? Do they consider it a given that their crisis needs to have precedence over yours? (If so, RUN! Because hon, you've got some serious s*** on your plate, and that needs to be recognized!) Have you known her for long?
Lemme guess. When it's good, it's so good!

And the rest of the time find yourself questioning your judgement? ("Maybe I am at fault" etc. Or that nagging feeling that maybe you're being "selfish", when in fact you are merely considering your own needs as part of the equation in making a decision?

On track, or have I just made a Freudian rant?



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Have fun at the concert!!! DEFINITELY wouldn't pass that one up! You deserve a fun break!
(Hmmm. Our dancing chili isn't exactly George Clinton, and a row of 'em doesn't exactly make Parliament, but they'll have to do! )