I was accidentally triggered by Myself's post about her own Mother doing what was culturely acceptable during that time. The trigger is I have heard the line of;"she did the best she could considering....." I do not agree. Not everyone my age was tortured as was I by the female parent. In fact my dear friend who is no longer with me is about the same age,within 10 years and she did not torture her kids. I can't make excuses for the abuse of magical beautiful beings. And yes, had them, have them and they can be so frustrating but that is MY problem, not theirs and I will not abuse a child because it is what I learned.

*edited to add trigger icon due to subsequent discussion