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Originally Posted by l6886l
(as I have threatened this a few times)
I know for a fact that I allowed him to stay after the 2nd affair for two reasons. One, I was scared to death of not having the means to provide enough financially for our daughter and two, I really thought I would be "the hero" and he would finally change because I am "such a good woman" for allowing him to stay.
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Making threats is abuse, too. It does not sound like either you or your husband is very self-aware and working for what they really want. You are settling and letting him settle/not do much to make things right.
I would try marriage counselling and/or individual counselling for myself, because I'm worth it and want to change, not because he wants me to change?
I had to laugh at myself because when you did the "thin lips, you should plump them up" I thought of a piece of his anatomy that could probably use work too, being small, that he wouldn't like negative comments about?
