I hope this helps. What your husband is doing is wrong and it is abuse. It isn't a "joke" to tell someone her lips are too thin. Criticizing someone for a natural attribute is mean and underhanded. When my husband was up to no good I all of a sudden was a miserable wretch and he (apparently ) was doing me a favor by staying married to me, even though I was so horrible in so many ways. He eventually did me an even bigger favor by ditching me for what he thought were greener pastures (and hornier fillies, I guess). And he continued to try to vilify me--talking rudely to me, being sarcastic in communications, until I just stopped putting up with it.

If you want to try to stay married to this man, I would offer him the opportunity of going to marriage counseling with you, and that refusal wasn't an option but a direct ticket to divorce. I'd make it clear you expect your relationship to change to one of mutual respect or you see no need to be married, and I would point out that you have made this decision knowing the poor affect his abuse of you and neglect of his daughter is having.

One last thing that might help you personally. You are fine. Your weight is fine, your height is fine, your lips are fine. Decent men gravitate towards women who give off an aura of beauty, which I believe comes from within. Part of that perceived beauty is what the man thinks he sees in the woman, and part of it is her attitude about herself and the world shining through. Bad men gravitate towards beauty, too, but they mistreat it.