Turns out my H got to go to a warmer climite and work. It's only warmer because it is 34 degreese and hour from here. It's only 16 here. So he will not be able to attend w/ me. So problem solved. It's just me.

Sannah you are so right. My H invades boundaries like crazy. I need a lot of personal space. With T he has learned when he is aggressive stay across the room or at least 10 ft away from me. If you want to talk to me and ask me something I am not wanting to do get down on my level before you ask and be calm. He should not hover over me, get close to me, or raise his voice what so ever.

Most valuable he has learned that when we are arguing do not touch me. Hugs are nice for some people, not me. When I am upset because he fusses at me and brings me to tears, that is not the time to hug me or touch me. Last time that happened I blurted out, don't touch me I hate you. I felt badly but it was to late.

The T seems to think that may be my true feelings and thats ok. She also seems to think that could have well been a triggered responce. Helplessness w/ unwanted touch is possibly a trauma responce related to rape. Which we are working threw.