S4 I know this might sound cold. I don't feel anything when some one passes. I sat w/ my 97 year old grandma for a year so she could stay at home rather then a facility. When she passed I went threw all the motions not emotions. Vewing, funeral, meals, family stuff. As far as feeling nothing. She is sorely missed by me.

It bothers me when someone passes that I feel nothing. Aunts, uncles, friends, pets, nothing from me. It saddens me more that I have no feelings at that time then the actual event should sadden me.

I have talked to the T about this and I have issues w/ letting emotions out anyway. Only recently have I discovered it is ok to feel but after 38 years I don't have much luck. I'd just rather not.

So does that make you cold or unsympathetic. NO it doesn't. Detachment is not so bad I guess, in fact it works quite well for me. Just ask my H, on secound hand don't.