I do not feel men are emotionally stronger than us; I feel they get called weak themselves if they breakdown... due to societies view on how men are supposed to act and how women are supposed to act. Men get weird looks when they express themselves with any "weak" associated reactions. I feel like if women say "we need our men to be rocks for us", then that leaves no room for men to be allowed to be upset themselves, or makes them hide/suppress it. As a female, a comment like that can be insulting, insinuating that I need a boyfriend in my life to be strong.

Major deviation from your topic, I apologize Jadzea;

You said:
"I feel so weak because I have to rely on meds to get through. My husband is a rock. You can tell he is sad but he is getting on with his life and caring for our little girl like a trouper. Why can't I be more like him? What is wrong with me?"

I don't know if you can think of times right now, but I'm sure there have been times when you have had to support your husband. Your husband might cope differently then crying, but be the same degree of emotional turmoil. For example, sometimes I overwork to compensate for the pain or stress I feel, and try to take my mind off of it. Where one partner is down, the other supports.

I am also thinking you may have compounding stress in your life, and the fear of losing your companion was a breaking point. A lot of times we, male and female, do not give ourselves the credit for how much we are enduring. I may be wrong, but I feel like this might not be the first time you have seen your husband as a rock, and yourself as weak.

If this is true, maybe there was a time in your past, possibly as a kid even, where you were made to feel something similar.

I'm a bit passionate about your predicament because I am on depression medication, and wonder how it is my girlfriend does not need it...then again, she's an alcoholic! lol.

I feel like your worst case scenario would be: your husband truly was more emotionally stable then you.
What would that mean for you? I think talking about it might help make sense of this threatening thought, and maybe if you had some insight it could empower you;

Take care,
-obj