This is, undoubtedly, emotional abuse. He has absolutely no right to speak to you this way, and please, believe me when I say you have done nothing to "warrant" behavior like this. He is not joking...your feelings and self esteem are not a joke. He is being incredibly insensitive to you, and his behavior is simply wrong. I am sorry you have suffered through this.

Icecream made an excellent post that I hope you will be able to follow. Marriage counseling is the best way to go, and it cannot be an option. Do keep in mind though that he will have to commit to it...him simply going through the motions cannot work. He has to be wiling to dedicate himself to actually making this work and to improve your marriage. I hope he will be able to do that.

Lastly, please listen to what IceCreamKid said. You are fine. There is nothing at all "wrong" with you. Don't let his lies about you become the truth in your mind. You know you're a beautiful, wonderful person. Don't let him shake that faith.

Please know I am praying for you, and I wish you all of my best.

Hugs,
Harley