this is the same sort of emotional abuse that i suffered when i was still living with my mother. we don't talk anymore.

i suggest you not give him the chance to keep doing this to you. if at all possible, i suggest you find a way to get you and your daughter out and at least go through a separation, during which he must agree to marriage counseling and show improvement over a long period of time, not just a couple weeks or months. your daughter doesn't deserve to see her mother mistreated, either.

if there is anywhere you can go, please go there when you can. don't threaten him with leaving. just leave. otherwise he will keep thinking that you're just threatening and that you will always be there to clean up after his messes.