I think we as HPD, don't necessary PURSUE desires, but we allow ourselves to be caught up in desires in which are set before us. As we have many admirers, those that are willing to do anything to perhaps make us belong to them, by saying what we want to hear or doing things to make us feel wanted, desired, and loved, we....for the moment...will allow ourselves to picture our life with that person and feel that we "love" them and that IF ONLY we could be with that person instead of the one we are with that we would be finally truly happy.

But when we get that other person, we find that we see their faults we could not see before, therfore we allow ourselves to start fantasizing about yet another admirer and the cycle continues....