yeah, been through it, going through it now. If you are only 37 you have many many more years to find someone. You're probably doing all the right things but it can take a long time. I guess I can only counsel patience and openmindedness but it is hard to trust and love again. Focus on finding someone who fills your three most important character needs - relationships are easier if you already know other person is honest, or empathic, or intelligent or whatever you put on your must-have list.