Oh, sweetie!
How is the housing search going?
A thought came while reading this... With the kinds of stuff he does to try to sway your decisions... I can't help but wonder if that's all he's doing in saying he'll sell the house if you move. And giving the additional reason that "apartments are expensive"... Uhhh, if he sold the house, wouldn't he be putting himself in the position of having to deal with that as well? I don't know him well enough to make a proper guess of course, but... sounds like there's bluff potential there...

I cannot remember how his wife does or does not enter into the "who would get the house" picture. And you don't have to say of course, but whatever it is might help to determine the likelihood of his statement being valid or not.

All in all though, guess it doesn't really matter whether his statement reflects the truth or not. The most important thing is keeping toxicity to a minimum for your family. Sending good thoughts your way on that, dh...