Didn't want to hijack the other thread on online reviews....
I'm debating writing a negative online review for my former pdoc. It is very out of character for me. In college on course evaluations, I would go out of my way to write a few nice things about profs that were lousy because I didn't want to hurt their feelings. But this feels different. I feel that this pdoc did me a lot of harm and the way he treated me continues to hurt me 8 months later. I wonder if writing a review would help me put it behind me. And I don't want him to do it to someone else.
The brief version: having a good pdoc was really important to me and I was frustrated that the guy on my insurance plan spent only 5 minutes with me. Pdoc was highly recommended, but he doesn't accept any insurance, but I wanted someone good, so I bit the bullet and paid his very high prices to get a little more attention. The first 2 years were great. I felt like he listened and wanted to work with me. He tended to get a little therapist-y on me and start doling out advice, and although I didn't appreciate it, I didn't let it bother me too much.
Then I made some life decisions (about my relationship) that he clearly disagreed with. His whole attitude toward me changed. He started to be really short and curt. Then I was looking to make some med changes related to other medical issues and he started saying things that I knew to be untrue based on my readings and discussions with other doctors! He ended up telling me that I really needed X (very common, non-controversial) med and that he didn't feel comfortable rx'ing it because it would be too dangerous with my condition, so I should go to another pdoc. Okay, fine, but it felt really personal and not based on medicine. When I switched pdoc's (actually to someone he suggested) the new guy was very confused by his behavior. (Being generous) new pdoc said that maybe former pdoc was unwilling to rx the med because he is not up on the literature because he sees more kids than adults. So even a pdoc agrees that his medical advice was off.
I feel that he at least owed it to me to say that he was having some sort of countertransference and needed to refer me to someone else. OR say that he wasn't familiar with this issue and so he needed to send me to someone more knowledgable. But instead, he pretended to know things and made me feel terrible.
Would you write the review? Sorry so long. I needed to get that out.
Best,
EJ
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