My T once told me he believed in the process. He tried to tell me today that he said he believed in me because he says now he does, and he doesn't remember saying the other thing. But it is burned into my memory, because I asked him, and he very carefully repeated himself. A lot of people were convinced you were a danger. A lot of people thought the same thing about me. Some people here still do - they are not my fans! A guy I worked with some years ago once said, when he saw that eyebrow go up, he knew he was in trouble. I wasn't even aware of "that eyebrow" going up, so he did me a favor by saying that. I think that's my mother's eyebrow - that's all she had to move to silence or restrain me, once she got me trained. So I think we're just giving out what we were taught, without always intending to or realizing it -that's the sneaky part of bpd.