Agatha,

It sounds like you have problems being alone ~ like you don't want to be alone & you're looking for "the one" to fill the void that you have inside. Is that accurate?

There is an old saying that's actually quite true, "Love comes when you least expect it." Sounds a bit corny, but it's true! It sounds like you need to focus on yourself and discovering who you are, what makes you happy, what your goals and passions are in this life, in order to build a stable sense of self before moving on to find another man to fill that void that you feel inside of yourself. We may not always have others to show their support and love for us, but we always have ourselves.

Coming to some terms of self-acceptance really does help ~ but it takes devotion and tenacity to let go of the instinct to find the right person to help us feel secure. Try to give yourself that time alone. Look at it as a time of discovery. You aren't going to find the right fit until you know what's truly important to you (pros and cons).

I wish you the best!