Abuse is difficult, even after someone takes responsibility becaue the damage is done and sometimes the strength of one of the spouses to resolve it does end in divorce and a radical change of life-styles for all partes involved. Even with the benefit of therapy and counseling it's sometimes just necessary to realize that that particular family unit has served it's purpose, mistakes were made, it can't be put back together........... and move on with your life as you want it to proceed from this morning on. Look for new friendships along the way and take responsibility for your new life and let the blame, sorrow and violence of the past go into the past and be forgiven.