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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
People's needs to go to therapy are various.
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I'm saying there is one core element to all psychological pain and
if that element doesn't exist, there would be no pain and no reason for therapy.
That element is internal experience we can't (directly) control AND that
is UNWANTED--we try to repress or ignore.
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
One's beloved dies - maybe suddenly, maybe tragically, maybe right after birth; maybe after a close loving marriage of 50 years. The survivor feels grief and needs help to reconstruct a life that has been torn in half. Saying "I fully accept and want these feelings" is going to go nowhere.
A person is a victim of trauma. Her trust is shattered; her world has been turned inside out. Shock, fear, violation. Saying "I fully accept and want these feelings" is BS.
Your brilliance is a little overrated.
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I didn't say that telling yourself to fully accept something will do anything.
I agree, affirmations like that are BS.
I said IF, somehow, you fully accepted all internal experience, there would be
no pain.
If someone fully accepts their grief (many do), they wouldn't think about resolving it in therapy.
They see it as natural and as something they need to experience. Their grief is WANTED and accepted.
Trauma creates many internal involuntary reactions, automatically. You can't control them.
But you can then fight them, not WANT them, try to repress them.
There's a theory that animals don't do that:
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/a...now-the-secret
so they recover quickly.
Obviously some trauma victims recover quickly and some don't.
I'm saying the difference is the former don't try to repress their responses.