Sannah, I'd imagine that's what he's saying.

The thing is, I don't want to put myself out there. I want to be content with the idea of never falling in love or being with a man again. I want to never have that longing for affection.

I've been doing fine without a partner for 4 years now. The idea of allowing someone into my heart and to be vulnerable like that feels like a total impossibility. I am perfectly content raising my daughter on my own. I don't need a man's financial support (even though I am in a dire financial situation, but that's not the point). I have hobbies and friends that fill other needs. I take care of my own sexual needs. So, really, it's that whole excitement/lusting/longing for affection that crops up every now and then that needs to be gone.

I'm not sure how to act on that.