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Originally Posted by beauflow
(((((BrokennBeautiful))))
Many Hugs to you 
I don't think it is that no one has nothing nice to say to you,
I think what Buttercup has said, some times people are not sure what to say- or how to go about with giving advice.
This situation with your room mate and you, sounds like a growing point for you.
Have you two had a serious sit down talk? I don't know if that would help at all, but at least it may get some questions you are asking here out to him- the source to which they are aimed for (right?)
Spaces with a friendship is hard on anyone, and can be more of a struggle for others. (I had difficult time with one friend, and the overwhelming of "I am being left again" came through and it was hard--- but it does work out, some how some way--)
I can so hear you on the not being in therapy thing (I tend to say that to myself- I am taking a route less traveled so it is unwanted)- But in honesty-- PC is a great place.... I think a lot of people like to try to help each other and encourage one another, weather that be in psychotherapy OR you Doing Therapy on your own.
Many hugs and well thoughts your way- Reminders to be kind to yourself |
I also appreciate this. I am not sure how to approach my roommate. I have been disengaging from him over the past few years now because he has made it clear without saying too many words that he does not really feel like spending time with me, except "I can handle you in small bites" (what he said to me after my aunt died---ouch) After that I did not feel like talking to him or hugging him.
Then he tells me that he likes animals more than ppl---over the years, he's told me I was abusive and loud and "talked too much", so I don't feel I even deserve his time with me.
I have been very apologetic to him about all this and have tried to modify my behavior around him and only act sunny and happy and funny and when he seems to be stonewalling me again, I just walk away.
today I saw him acting lovey toward his cat, the way he used to be lovey toward me and thank goodness, Ani (mentor) has advised me to walk away when I am feeling hurt or needy again.
thanks,
Carol