I'm not quite sure I understand, as I'm not familiar with the history here. But I'd imagine that awareness can be helpful in navigating it.

I know that one important aspect is figuring out what's in it for each party involved. Sometimes we hear things that cause our defenses to go into play. Sometimes people are intentionally hurtful, want to harm us, do things as a way to manipulate to get what they want. It's been useful for me to understand where one is coming from to see if any of those things fit....or, if it's just me overreacting based on my own life experiences and triggers...or the other person's. Being willing to navigate through it in a healthful way is my goal. Sometimes people aren't receptive to that, though.