Hi there. I hope I can help.

I confess, I am limited in what I can offer, as I'm not well versed in Australian law. But I can almost guarantee you that if were able to make a claim (such as getting him to speak about it) that the court would pull the plug on the visitation order almost immediately, I would think. That might be your best course of action.

He is going to be scared...he's embarrassed that this happened, more than likely, and I don't know what his grandmother may've told him. But ease into the conversation...probably over the course of a few days. Remind him that he knows he can tell you anything, and that you love him very much and will understand. He knows that, of course, but bringing it to the forefront of his mind will make things easier. He'll want to know that he can tell you anything, and that he won't be in trouble and that you won't be upset with him. He'll want to know it'll be between just you and him (which...if the situation warrants that you must take action, he'll need to know he didn't do anything wrong, and that though you know you promised, this really needs to be done. That will have to be fully your action as far as filing goes, but he would need to validate your claim with the authorities...he would have to be made comfortable talking to them about it). The point is, ultimately, that you have to relieve whatever fear has been placed on him in order for him to give you the details you need.

I am so sorry you and him are going through this. As I said, my handle on Australian law is extremely vague at best, so I am limited there. However, if I may be of any help, please don't hesitate to PM me at any time. I am here to talk.

Please know you are in my prayers, and I wish you all of my best.

Hugs to you both,
Harley