Well, my own opinion is that if it's necessary to take two or three years to grieve, so be it. We put far too much stress in this society on speed and action.

There is a time for inner recouperation, too, and that can't be rushed. Give yourself time to fully absorb the personality of the one who died and then move on in a more positive way with your other friends.

A friend is going to be there for you, regardless. One who isn't with you isn't necessarily on your side in the long run.

Ease up on yourself, is my honest view, and let yourself feel all that you need to feel so that when you move on, you're very stable in that.

A little paperback called "Forgiving and Moving On" is helpful for resolving feelings.

That's what we're doing when we grieve.