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Originally Posted by adel34
I'm sorry for saying what I did about the guidelines if it wasn't true. I thought it was.
The thing is, often Sanna seems to just post in a helping role, as in asking very challenging questions, and the overall tone is that of a therapist not a peer. This is unsettling to me.
And I'm sorry about my comment about you being just like my old t. No, it wasn't meant to be helpful, for whoever asked that. There was no big theory behind it. But looking back on it, I should have kept that one to myself. I just have a hard time with being challenged, and you do remind me of the therapist I saw recently.
I've pulled back on posts of my own, as well, and may keep doing so. Nice to hear from you again, Chopin.
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I love that you took ownership for what was yours, Adel34. And I believe your feedback has value.
In group T, asking questions is a way of limiting contact. It comes off as, "I want to know more about you without giving you anything of myself."...or..."I want you to give more without making myself vulnerable to you."...or..."I am putting you on the spot and pressuring you without sharing my motive or reason for doing so"....(stuff like that)....It leaves people wondering why the other person is asking a question, what they gain from it...and leaves a whole lot of room for assumptions and interpretations to come into play.
Of course, on the forum, it's different...but I'd imagine that it falls within the realm of relationship building somewhat.