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Originally Posted by SallyBrown
I'm quite aware of what it's like, in other situations in my life, when someone who is struggling with something that I have made my through, turns on me when I try to tell them what worked for me. "You think you're so smart?" "Oh I'm sorry I'm not PERFECT like you, *I* am still struggling." I see this here all the time. Someone says they come for support, when what they mean is they come for sympathy, pity, maybe enabling, or maybe company for misery. But when you reject the well-intentioned advice from someone WHO STRUGGLED WITH THE VERY SAME PROBLEMS AND HAS OVERCOME THEM, you canNOT tell me you're looking for support. Sannah is one of these people, who is merely offering an approach that helped her. You don't like it? Here's your refund. Stick with people who are as lost as you are, I'm sure that'll turn out well.
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That's actually one of the reasons I like this board so much, because of the people who do offer help in that way. People here from various background have spent so many years on self improvement and so they seem to be able to share so much about what helped them. I find that so much more helpful that just sitting around feeling sad about life. I've received such good solid advice, sometimes things that I couldn't fully understand at first. I'd hate it if those all who are able to offer practical advice felt driven away because they felt attacked. It makes me sad to hear about so many people receiving nasty PMs too. Ouch.