As a women I will comment on the part about by default not being sexually attracted to a man unless he is the most handsome guy in town. Even sexual attraction depends a lot more than on looks alone. For myself I agree about confidence.

I have met lots of "nice guys" or men that call themselves that and I have turned some of the nice guys down. They didn't come across that nice to me tho. They seemed to use manipulative tactics to try to real me in. Sometimes that is how it comes across, maybe they didn't realize it either. But a soon as I didn't recipicate their feelings and in a very nice way suddenly they not only did not want to be my friend, like they said they were.. they also became spiteful and vindictive. That really did not reinforce to me that they were nice. That anyways has been my experience with all the "nice guys" I have known.

I don't want bad boys either. I looked for someone who was confident, someone who "I" thought was funny, kind, accepting, loyal, honest, someone who's personality complimented mine and mine theirs. Most of all I was looking for someone who could be authentic with me, someone who could be strong but also volnerable. Someone who knew their stregths but was not afraid to see their weaknesses as well, that is confidence to me. Someone who would trust me as I would trust them. So many things.. tho looks were really not my top priority. Being born with certain facial traits due to genetics doesn't really mean a whole lot. And in this day in age, we are a bit past survival of only the best genetics I think.

I think High Treason gave you a lot of good advice. Just be you, have confidence in yourself, have fun, and remember that you also are looking for someone that meets your needs, not just anyone can do that. You are not just trying to get hired for the job so to speak, you are also interviewing them as well to se if they are right for you. It can be easy to loose sight of that and focus on what they are looking for, but it destroys confidence in yourself at the same time.

I am a female, but I have been there also, just don't give up on yourself finding someone to share life with. Maybe a different approach, it took me a long time to find my confidence, but I did find it. I really think you can too. Do you know specifically what you are looking for in a girl?