Thanks for understanding. She's not the type who says things like that, so that's why the very occasional thing like that really stands out. That's also why I think she'd take it back. I also imagine she'd quite possibly have no recollection of thinking or feeling that way, and that would be really sad. She did seem to mean it at the time. She was telling me really practical stuff. What would happen to her as a result of my actions. Inquiries, questions, her career in question. Which actually didn't seem insensitive at the time at all. It helped me to be really practical about it. I was still sad and said the only reason she'd be sad was because of the paperwork and she corrected me and added in that statement. I'm sure these days she'd correct me and tell me she could look after herself, that she'd be sad, but get on with life. All the normal things. So I'll just hold on to it...but I don't think I'll ever mention it again.